Around 5 p.m. Wednesday, Ryan Ruggiero, a CNBC assignment desk editor in New York with a relatively modest 307 followers, sent out a tweet that helped spread a wildfire of business news online:

RyanRuggiero CNBC'S Gasparino: Bank Of America CEO |Ken Lewis To Step Down By End Of Yearabout 3 hours ago from Seesmic


Invitations to add apps, attend events, join groups and "fan" business pages are choking Facebook with so much clutter that it can be hard to find your real friends. "Games, apps and polls are fine. Just don't ask me to join / participate!" writes a Facebook user from Winnsboro, S.C.
Lets hack through some of that right now.
Apps are potentially the worst, because they can suck privacy information right out of your account and into the outside developer's database. If you're invited to join an app you don't like, you can block that app and not be invited again. On the requests page -- where you're directed when you click on your request notifications on the home page -- click "block this application" under the invitation. If you get a lot of applications from a certain friend, you can block all application invites from that friend. You'll see that fine print beneath the app invitation, too. If you like this friend, feel free to send them this in a personal message:
I like connecting with you on Facebook, but please don't send me any more application requests. Outside apps have privacy risks I don't like, and I don't care for the invites, either. I'm glad you're having fun with this. Thanks a lot. To see more on this, go to http://bit.ly/3xf4PF
That link is to this blog post, and might explain things a little. I don't mind being the bad guy, and you could be saving many of your friends the same aggravation. You can also hide an application with a large logo so you don't have to see it on your wall. (Anything with "farm," "mafia" or "vampire" in the name comes to mind.) Just hover your cursor next to the logo when it appears on your wall, and click hide. There you'll also see the option to hide the friend who uses this app. Tempting, isn't it? Let's talk about that for a sec.
There are three layers of distancing yourself from an annoying friend on Facebook: Hide, unfriend (techinically, "remove connection"), and block (which prevents someone from even finding you on Facebook. You can find that on your Privacy settings.) I'm going to suggest again that you instead address the behaviors that are bothering you about the friend. If they're really a friend, the brief, uncomfortable exchange could be well worth it in the long run.
On the subject of applications, there's a chore many of you need to do, now. Facebook recently added privacy controls for how much you reveal to outside developers of applications. Take note: We're talking here about apps you don't use. These are apps your friends use, but that can access your privacy info. If the very idea of this alarms you, do this: Go to Settings at the top of the Facebook page (yours or the home page), click Privacy, Applications, Settings. There you see a bunch of check boxes where you choose what info your friends can see "through applications," and therefore what privacy info this developer can see and use -- like your religion, who you're in a relationship with and whether you're online. I chose to shut a lot of that down. For more on this issue, see here.
At the bottom of this page, you can see which friends you've blocked from inviting you to use apps. Ask yourself, do you want to be on any of your friends' pages here?
Requests to attend events come in by the truckload, it seems. I rarely go to these things, but it seems I have to deal with them all the time. From the requests page, you can click "Remove from my events" under an event. It's not clear to me if this prevents you from being invited to it again. I have read online that that's not the case. There are no settings to prevent receiving invitations to certain events, or from certain friends. There should be, and I think there will be soon. In the meantime, feel free to send a persistent friend this:
I like connecting with you on Facebook, but please don't send me any more invitations to events, or to fan a business or join a group. I'm glad you're finding this worthwhile, but I don't wish to take part. Please remove me from these invitations lists and practices. I like to see what you're doing, and don't want to "hide" you. Thanks a lot. To see more on this, go to http://bit.ly/3xf4PF
You can also choose the option Ignore All from the requests page. (You're taken there when you click "See all" next to Requests on the home page.) You can ignore all the requests, getting rid of them, or ignore a whole category, like applications requests. But again, this doesn't go to the source of the reuests. I'd reach out to that friend.
Sara Woodmansee of Charlotte seemed to sum up how many of us feel when she wrote: "Agree about quiz, poll and apps requests. Also had one person who sent me their fan page 'suggestion' about 8 times! I ignored it the first 7, why would i do it now?"
You don't want to be the person she's talking about. If you sincerely want this particular friend to attend this event, join this group or fan this business, reach out to them directly, and have a conversation about it.
Don't send invitation spam on Facebook. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.
Here's a hilarious video on Facebook etiquette suggested by my friend, Bill Benac. (We studied social networking together at Stanford.) It's not exactly what we're discussing, but is very funny. Enjoy!






Social media is this era's rock 'n' roll. It's very cool, and it's filled with irritating noise. Some people are doing it like crazy, and other people think they're crazy.
Facebook is the Beatles: Sunny, likable, a common denominator. The new “I Want To Hold Your Hand” is “I Added You As A Friend.”
Twitter is the Rolling Stones. The messaging medium with a 140-character limit is darker, more cryptic and harder to love. The people who hated rock 'n' roll really hated the Stones. The people who hate social media really hate Twitter.
Which makes the cool kids sneer and say, “Good.”
Which brings us to Charlotte's cool kids. On Thursday I listed 10 Charlotte tweeters biz people should follow. Today, I'm going to add to your must-follow list. Here are the people who, when I see their tweets, I crank up the volume. They're ju

st good rock 'n' roll. I hope they give you satisfaction, too.
Want to get started on Twitter? I'll give a how-to primer in this space soon.
Some people on Twitter are just funny. WCNC producer Jeremy Markovich – who tweets under the name deftlyinane – is an enlightened snark. Ad man Jim Mitchem (top icon) also tweets with some healthy irony under the name smashadv. And the Charlotte guy who tweets under the name WadetoBlack (and prefers to leave his name at that) is just hilarious.
Who doesn't want some healthy (clinically and psychologically healthy) sex in their day? Here's a typical tweet from sexologist Becky Knight, who tweets under the name livingsex

uality: “Wish your wife was always in the mood? Think again...”
You can see inside an NFL player's life by following rhysjlloyd. The cool British Panther kicker actually opens up.
LisaHoffmann is one of the most popular Twitter personalities in Charlotte. See a video with her discussing Charlotte's Twitter community below.
Derek Kelley, (second icon) who tweets under the name DKelley31, is so honest that he's very cool. Young entrepreneur thejonwest – rocks Twitter. Twitter can be poetic, and I like the way creative guy nakedmedium makes up words. And a must-follow is Justin Ruckman (third icon) – jruckman. Buy stock in CLT Blog's chief NOW.

Want mommy cool? Tune into olgabow. Mom Olga Bowman really shows her feelings. If you want some cool-kid sneer to give your day attitude, follow the tweeter with the name prettyannoyed. Her screaming-baby icon is a clue to her tone. Can you be a cool kid and really into knitting? Apparently, yes. Follow MaggieHyde. And I love the brief Twitter bio of tiny AlexisAcosta: “I'm not short, I'm fun-size.” (Bottom icon)
OK, that's a baker's dozen, not 10.
Now, here's what I love about Twitter. The people who hate Twitter will rip me for writing this and wasting precious space and manpower in a newspaper on such noise. And the cool kids on Twitter will rip me for being mainstream media and not cool at all.
